The Healthy Cycle of Healing and Overcoming Grief
In this third episode in the grief series I share about the healthy cycle of healing and overcoming grief. I bring a teaching that came as an energetic download from my shamanic lineage almost twenty years ago and translate it into a simple, human map you can use when you are walking through loss, separation and deep sadness.
I speak about grief as an extensive sadness that arises from loss or the fear of losing something we love, and I honour the depth of those who are living through it. I share how, a little over thirty days after my mother’s passing, I feel a profound respect for anyone who is navigating this level of reorganisation in their life and heart.
I introduce the healthy cycle of grief as four main stages. The first stage is the experience itself, the recognition of loss and the shock that lands in the heart. I explain how mastering sadness and grief awakens the lover within you, because grief opens the heart, softens the body and creates a deep need for intimacy and tenderness.
The second stage is confusion, shock and sometimes anger. This can show up as questions about identity, rage at God, life or others, guilt and shame. People can get stuck here for years, so this stage needs empowerment, clarity and sovereignty.
The third stage is isolation and going inward. I talk about withdrawing into your inner cave, licking your wounds and discovering that this is actually a portal of creation and deep healing, where vision can be activated.
The fourth stage is reconnection. This is the moment you return to life changed, with an upgraded identity and a new relationship with yourself, your mission and even with the one you lost, now in a different dimension. The cycle is not truly linear. You can move back and forth between stages, and over time reconnection becomes more stable and embodied.
Key Takeaways:
Grief is
A sacred, powerful form of sadness that arises from loss.
There is a healthy cycle of grief
With four stages: experience, confusion, isolation and reconnection.
Mastering grief
Awakens the lover within you by opening your heart and softening your body.
Confusion, anger, guilt and shame
Need empowerment and clarity, not more drama.
Isolation can be a portal
Of deep healing and vision, not just withdrawal.
Reconnection
Is an upgraded identity and a new relationship with yourself, life and the one you lost.
If you are somewhere inside this cycle right now, I am bowing to the depth of what you are carrying. You are not broken and you are not behind. You are moving through a sacred process that your mind might not fully understand yet.
Let this episode be a gentle map and a reminder that there is a path through grief, and that on the other side there is more of you, not less.
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